Honestly, BFME's success is based on the fact that it's LOTR. Try playing classic RTS games like Warcraft, Starcraft, Age of Empires. As for games with a faster paced game play, I'd also recommend Warhammer Dawn of War (similar in gameplay to BFME - holding outposts on the map, etc), Supreme Commander (really massive tactics there) or Ground Control (tactics + urban environment).